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LIFE APPRENTICE 101

¿Sabes qué tipo de padre eres con respecto a tu estilo de crianza? ¿Eres parte de los que creen que es realmente importante estar involucrado en todos los aspectos de la vida de tu hijo o prefieres darle más espacio y que ellos se sientan libres de experimentar y cometer sus propios errores y aprender de ellos?



Cada vez tenemos más información, más fuentes y opiniones que nos dicen cómo debemos o no debemos criar a nuestros hijos. Entonces comencé a investigar y descubrí qué significa ser un padre helicóptero. Aparentemente un tipo de crianza que –representa- los valores de los padres entre las décadas de 1990 y 2000.


Padres helicóptero, es un término que se refiere a la crianza protectora, que caracteriza a los padres que están realmente interesados ​​en la educación y las actividades de sus hijos y básicamente están obsesionados con todos los aspectos de la vida de sus pequeños.


Muchos podrían considerar que este estilo de crianza es sobreprotectora y podría terminar en adultos dependientes con baja autoestima que creen que no son capaces de hacer las cosas por sí mismos.


Los niños criados bajo este estilo de crianza generalmente tienen menos tiempo libre para jugar ya que generalmente sus padres en pro de desarrollar al maximo su potenial los inscriben en diversas activades extra-curriculares.


Sin duda, todos los padres damos lo mejor de nosotros en la crianza de nuestros hijos, y quienes apoyan este tipo de crianza lo hacen en base a su interés en dar la mejor educación y el mejor futuro posible a sus hijos.


Son muchos los factores que definen nuestra forma de ser como padres, nuestra educación, cómo nos criaron nuestros padres, nuestros valores, miedos y el entorno en el que vivimos.


Sin duda hoy escuchamos tantas noticias horribles que lo que más queremos es poder meterlos en una burbuja para que nunca les hagan daño. Pero muchas veces al sobreprotegerlos debido a nuestros propios miedos, podemos estar impidiendo que vivan su infancia e incluso que desarrollen sus talentos. O incluso hacer que se sientan tan presionados que de adultos acaben haciendo lo contrario como una forma de rebelarse.


Como estilo de crianza opuesto está la crianza en libertad, que cree en darle a sus hijos el espacio suficiente para que puedan cometer errores, con menos compromisos sociales y más libertad. Estos padres valoran el tiempo que sus hijos tienen para explorar y jugar.


Sin duda, no existe una receta perfecta para ser padres, es algo que aprendemos todos los días y que varía con cada niño. Pero sin duda lo más importante es tener la comunicación como herramienta principal, y encontrar la forma de poner siempre todo en perspectiva para encontrar el equilibrio. Lo ideal es darle a sus hijos más libertad mientras están demostrando responsabilidad como muestra de nuestra confianza en ellos.

Did you know what type of parent are you regarding your parenting style? Are you part of the ones that believe that it is really important to be involved in every aspect of your child´s life or you prefer to give your kids more room?



Every time we have more information, more sources and opinions telling us how we should or shouldn´t raise our kids. So I started to research and found out about what means being and Helicopter Parent. Apparently a type of parenting that –represents- parents values between 1990s and 2000s.


Helicopter parents, is a term that refers to over-parenting, which are really into their children´s education, activities and basically obsessed of every aspect of their kid life.


Many could consider that this overprotecting parenting style could end in dependent adults with low self-esteem who believes that are not capable of doing things by themselves. Kids raised under this parenting style usually have less free time to plat due to over-programming by their parents.


Without a doubt, all parents give the best of us in raising our children, and those who support this type of parenting do so based on their interest in giving the best education and the best possible future to their children.


There are many factors that define our way of being as parents, our education, how our parents raised us, our values, fears ​​and the environment in which we live.


No doubt today we hear so much horrible news that what we most want is to be able to put them in a bubble so that it never hurts them. But many times by overprotecting them due to our own fears, we may be preventing them from living their childhood and even developing their talents. Or even make them feel so pressured that as adults they end up doing the opposite as a way of rebelling.


As an opposite parenting style are Free-Range parenting, who believe in giving their kids the enough space so they can make mistakes, with fewer social commitments and more freedom. This parents value the time their kids have to explore and play.


Without a doubt, there is no perfect recipe for being parents, it is something that we learn every day and that varies with each child. But without a doubt the most important thing is to have communication as the main tool, and to find a way to always put everything in perspective to find a balance. The ideal is to give your kids more freedom while there are showing personal responsibility as a show of our confidence in them.

It is still too early to see our results as parents, but the truth is that we are doing it differently from how we were raised. Partly because circumstances and the environment have changed, and partly because we have made the decision to make changes in raising our children.



Undoubtedly, the way of seeing life and facing the challenges of the generation known as Millennials is not the same as their parents and probably will not be the same of their children when they reach their age.


FAMILY

It is not only parenthood that is changing, but values ​​and the concept of family. We see family structures that were unthinkable when we were kids. Mom and dad working, Parents who have decided to stay at home to take care of their children, single mothers many times by choice, among many others.


RESPONSABILITIES

Although we live in more hectic day to day and with more stress, contrary to what is believed, Millennial parents seem to spend more time with their children. And the role of the Father is increasingly participatory in everything related to children, giving great validity to the term "co-parenting". Studies conducted by Boston College have found that 85% of millennial dads want to spend as much time with their children as possible and see it as a priority.


AUTHORITY

Millennial parents are mostly focused on positive parenting where communication is reinforced, leaving aside the vision of an authoritarian parenthood. It is done! because I say so ... apparently it is something of the past. Towars a parenthood phylosophy that seeks to reinforce positive behaviors instead of punishing negative ones.


MORE QUALITY TIME

New vision of timeshare, where it is not the amount that we can dedicate to our children, but the quality of those moments. Always focused on creating family memories that last over time, especially on weekends when the schedule allows it and not necessarily at dinner time as we were used to. Memories that are also shared on social media, with friends and family, as a means of communication.


Definitely, many of the changes have been the result of the natural characteristics of this generation, as well as the influence of great technological development, the internet, social media platforms and access to a lot of information.


Not forgetting that they are becoming parents at an older age. In 2017, in the United States, according to the National Center for Family & Marriage Research at Bowling Green University, the average age for women to have their first child is 26.8 years, compared to 1970 when the average age was 21.4 years.


Until a few years from now we will not know how positive changes have been, have these children been rewarded too much even when they have not reached the goal set?

What will they be like as adults on a personal and professional level? They are answers that only time will tell ...

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